UR BEAUTY IS BEAUTIFUL!

We are constantly bombarded with images everyday from the media. We see so many models and and celebrities who are described as being beautiful, sexy, alluring, and attractive. But how many of those images look like us? Don't get me wrong we have Naomi Campbell, Gabrielle Union, Nia Long but they are far and in between. If you really pay attention to the media they kind of the same type that they call "beauty". Tall ,long hair, thin, colored eyes,small lips and fair skinned. Now I am none of those. I am short, brownskin, full lips, shapely, with medium length hair and dark brown eyes. I do not look like the typical girl next door or even a Victoria's Secret model. But I think better yet I know I am beautiful. But than, there are those days ,that I open up a magazine or see a music video and I am questioning my "beauty". Wishing and hoping that I could change my thick legs, have hazel eyes, or even long wavy hair. Sometimes I want to be taller or smaller or something. And yes I have been thru the "I wish my skin was lighter" phase thinking that if it was lighter I would be percieved as more beautiful. But I am so over that...I am a brownie and damn proud!!! I will never be lighter or taller or have bigger breast or lighter eyes..etc I can only be me!!

So this is to say do not get beated down by the media and other people opinions of what beauty is? Your beauty is your beauty! The moment we are able to accept ourselves and embrace our flaws they better we will be. I know this is hard brownies. Especially being a brown girl we are constantly being put to the side as second best but we cant let that ignorance get to us! For every man that don't like brown skin its another man thats loves it! Trust and believe. And whatever you may think is your flaw work on making it your plus. Aceept it and make the best out of what GOD gave you. GOD don't make mistakes. And if you can change it than change it. But never ever never ever never ever try to look like someone else because their beauty is not your beauty. Plus some of the most attractive people have the lowest self confidence and they are unhappy with themselves too. Proving that no one is happy with themselves until they accept their own unique "beauty".

In closing brownies, try your best to accept yourself for who you are. Do not let anyone else beauty standards affect your self esteem. Love the skin your in! Embrace your body and know ur beauty is beautiful!

Always BSB,

Miss BSB

New Year ,New Me, New You!

I hope everyone enjoyed their Christmas and NYE. My Christmas was not so good but my NYE was fantastic. I came home to Philly on new years and spent time with my family. I love them to death. Its almost like a tradition where we make appetizers and party all night long. I swear we do it every year and it never gets old. Love it!
Well now that it is a new year, it means new things and new ideas. A new attitude and maybe a new pair of shoes. LOL I did a self evaluation last year and I seen my flaws. I quit damn there everything I started and made excuses to justify why I did quit. I cried about jobs when in reality I had about 7 jobs within the last year and a half but when I didn't like something I left or never showed up. That is not a good character trait. Whose to say that if I had keep one of those jobs I would of been in NY now instead of Atlanta. How would my life had been if I had finished all the goals I had set?

I like to believe that everything happens for a reason.That through all the trials, errors, and tribulations life is preparing us for a better future. But what if that isn't true? What if life is what we make it? Maybe there isn't some magical reason to why bad shit happens and good things don't. Maybe we make our minds believe that everything happens for a reason so that we can find comfort in the all the disappointing stuff that happens to us. I don't know. But I do know that in 2010 I will change myself for the better and I will continue to throughout my life and not just when a new year begins.

I believe in destiny and that we are all here to be great at something. But destiny isn't enough you have to put hard work behind it and fight for it till the end. I mean do you think people was destined to be crackheads. Hell no! They had a destiny too but they did not take advantage. Faith is only one part. You cant leave it up to GOD or anyone else. Because if you do you maybe waiting forever. For example, there are poor people who to go to church every Sunday but yet they are still poor. They have faith, give tithe and pray but yet they suffer financially. But the preacher has a Benz and a big house and yet he does not suffer financially. Why? Because he put forth the effort rather it was screwing members out there money or making their own christian empires, either way they are not struggling.

My point is that we can have all the things we want in this world with a little faith, hard work, and a plan to get us there. Don't just make a new years resolution make a life resolution. Stick to it and don't give up. Because the moment you do it will take you steps backwards not forward. Life is short. Life is hard. Life will have ups and downs. Life is truly what you make it. So you have to live it fully with no excuses and no fear. Go for it my brownies. Be who it is you want to be! Success and happiness is waiting for you.

Always BSB,
Miss BSB